God and Daddy Doms

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   Yes, yes, I've gotten pic-happy. Leave me alone. *snicker*

Taken from minofsin's lj. He in turn took it from someone else, and the trail is too complicated to follow. Suffice it to say Rebel didn’t write it - but he feels it. And since it struck a chord in me, I’m putting it here. Because it opens up a whole side that I’ve not expressed to many people. And its something that I think is important. So I've got the essay copied here, then my opinions. You might not agree, they might make you mad, they might make you call me a fool.  Fair warning - they're volatile, people! 

The Essay quoted by minofsin :

I have been asked several times what a Daddy Dom really is and how that differs for any other Dominate. First, I want E/everyone to know, it has NOTHING to do with incest, and it isn't age play or any fetish for or with children .

Daddy Dom : I can only say what it means to me, others may have a different impression and there are several web pages that define it in different ways. Just do a search on Yahoo there's plenty.

In my view a Daddy Dom is the most tender of all Dominants. He loves His little one with an undying passion. He always has his submissive's best interest in mind, even when it conflicts with his personal desires. That doesn't mean that he gives into her every whim. There can be a huge difference in her desires and her real needs. He has to be able to make that sacrifice for her if needed. And yes, at times he does punish her. This usually hurts him just as much if not more than her, but he will always do what's best for her.

He helps her set and reach her goals in life, not just in the lifestyle. He will help her improve herself to be the best she can be, not for HIM but for her ! He's not just looking to make her a better submissive, but a better person in general.

He becomes many things in her life, a mentor, a teacher, a protector, a guide, AND... a lover! He offers her what she needs most of all, unconditional love and acceptance. He is consistent in his actions so that she knows what to expect from him, she knows she can depend on him!

He wants nothing more than to pull her close and protect her from the cruel world. But knowing all along that he can't ! SO... it is up to him to prepare her for whatever life may through her way and be there to comfort her when things go wrong... Knowing she will run to him when she becomes overwhelmed or frighten by the harshness of life. The Daddy Dom will listens to all her fears and concerns, knowing no matter how silly or childish they may sound to him, to her they are real and he will help her confront them. He slays her dragons so to speak and he is her "Knight in Shining Armor".

The Daddy Dom hears all her dreams, desires and all the dirty little secrets, and smiles because she is bold enough and loves him enough to open herself up so totally to him. He kisses her face and holds her close letting her know she is loved no matter what. she is His little one, and he loves her unconditionally.

There is nothing more satisfying to him than to see her succeed, to watch as she grows as a person. He revels in her daily accomplishments almost as much as she does herself.
He will cuddle her and show her the tenderness she craves when she needs it., when she feels unsure of herself he will whisper encouraging words for her. When she feels ugly he will reassure her how beautiful she is to him ... when she is scared he will be her safety net, her medium against the world if need be. She is his pride and joy ... his main comfort in life ... his reason for living. His pride in her shows in the tender loving way he cares for her, she is the one that puts the twinkle in his eye! Even though she is all woman, she is his little one and he is her Daddy ! Just remember ... he may be a Daddy but he is still and foremost a Dom!

A gentleman I know wrote this....any thoughts?

Yes. This is IT! PRECISELY. I have felt this, briefly, and it was the most incredible thing I've ever experienced. Its how I learned that I was a sub. And the word 'daddy' never once entered the equation. I wish I could find a way to write all that I feel goes along with this, from a sub's perspective. Words don't seem to do justice to the devotion and adoration that spring forth when I'm treated this way. The lengths to which I will go, unbidden, simply to see a smile of surprised pleasure or hear the delight in his words when I've managed to anticipate his desires and meet them on my own.

Its totally understandable that people 'squick' over the word Daddy. Few want to associate the sexuality that often accompanies this scenario with a parent. You know what it made me think of more, tho? The relationship between God and man. This is what He WANTS to be for us. This delighted adoring partner, who observes our lives with indulgent love, takes an active part in it, and guides us to becoming more perfect, more like Him. And this is where one of my primary arguments with Christianity comes in. God created sex. Not just as a means of procreation, but as a shadow of the love He feels for us. So many people don't even realize that! God has chosen his people to be his Bride, Christianity is RIFE with references to this, and with that comes all the implications of physical love as well as partnership and devotion. I'm not saying that an orgy is an expression of Christ's love for us. And I'm not saying that I'm against orgies. You know better!  I’m saying that people of the church have so perverted the expression of sexual love that its become filth, not to be spoken of in a religious context. Its WRONG, people. Its WRONG to allow idiots to claim sex is evil and filthy.

What blows my mind even moreso is the business that sex is a SHADOW, an earthly example of God’s love. Think about the most fulfilling, most intimate, most out of this world sexual experience you have ever had. Think about it long and hard, fill your mind with it. Go on, go there. Close your eyes, smell, taste, feel it. I’ll wait. ..... Now wrap your mind around this. That  is just a HINT of what life with God will be like when we are together with him. A HINT people!

The world is full of the Dom/sub dynamic. The religious world that I was raised in is completely Dom/sub, yet should you mention this, or attempt to bring the D/s dynamic into a Sunday School discussion, you would be met with silence, disgust and fear. And possibly be run out of town. And its not just the religious world. Its everywhere, in everything. From the relationships between pack animals to the food chain to the hierarchy that governs kingdoms or corporations. Christ was the ultimate switch. He chose to completely submit to His Father’s will, to the point of death, and afterward was elevated to the highest position, that of God Himself, and He was established as ruler of the universe from that moment on with His beloved Bride at his side for all eternity. (Don’t attack me, this is according to the Bible. I believe it. You don’t have to.)

Before you write me off as a fundamentalist right-wing preachy bitch, remember, this is just a conclusion that I have come to after years of studying, searching, and learning. I’m not saying you have to believe it. I’m not saying you have to agree. I’m only saying this is what I believe. This is why I cling to my beliefs in God and Christ in the face of all the bitterness I feel toward my lot in life. This also does not mean that I’m close-minded. You know me better than that. I haven’t even addressed the fact that I believe Christ was married, probably to Mary of Magdala, and I also believe that worship of God in the forms most people choose leaves out His entire feminine side. That’s right, I said the feminine side of GOD. What man chooses to describe himself as a hen brooding over her chicks? There is more to God than we mortals will ever know or understand. And there is more to God than any current religion or belief system can ever address. This does not mean that I have less respect for the way other people believe, for athiests or Buddhists, or wiccans or whatEVER. Its just my passion. End rant. Promise. *giggle*

Comments

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

I TOLD adidaschica that you hadn't deleted that post, that Tami had. You've just confirmed my suspicions. I told her that it was a pity, because now no one will know what happens if someone tries to get on the site and the members feel she doesn't fit in. She deleted my entry as well. I saved what I wrote to her, I'm thinking of posting on my lj as a record of why I left the community. When agonystar gets back, I wonder what will happen, if she will even notice.

Anyway, I'm very interested to see that you and I think along similar lines religiously. I've only recently come into my understanding of the Dom/sub dynamic in my life, and while the memories are still very bittersweet, my mind has been opened in a way I never dreamed possible. And it all started when one man took the time to show me what it could be like. Even tho it was online, and not real-life, it just opened my eyes to the things I've written about up there. ^^^ I've been surprised that this post has gotten any response at all. I'm very pleased that there's been no real negativity. I love my lj friends.

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I don't know if you have agonystar on your friends list, but I do. I know what she said about my app, and I am happy with that, but that was in her personal post. I also know when it comes to people the first person to comment, sets the tone for the rest that follow. Once I read the first comment, I knew what was going to happen.

I would be interested to read what you had to say in your post.

I've seen many great relationships, and for the most part, while they are not labled Dom/sub, they very much are...sometimes the roles change when they need too, but this makes the relationships all the stronger.

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

No, she's not on my friends list. I wouldn't give it another thot, if I were you. It was a nice community to start with, but she really got carried away, even before she was made a mod.

Here's what was said:

Hmm. Interesting statements, girls. True, she doesn't meet the requirements, and heaven knows that will bring on a rejection stamp from certain corners. *insert eyeroll* I respect your opinions Vek. And if you don't want someone whose political beliefs are so far different from yours in this group, then you are a strong woman for saying so. I also respect your opinions Jeannie. And maybe she's not quite bbw-material. I don't get the impression that this woman would be a Nazi-type once she were in, trying to force all of us to change our views. I think she'd probably just state her opinions, and let us state ours. Pretty much how I try to be. I see some similarities (Okay, yes, liking the Carpenters does make you a dork! But not Barry. NEVER Barry) This might not be the community for you. I certainly don't agree with all your viewpoints, but I'd consider adding you to my friends list. I wouldn't 'lick' you, like I would Vek there *shiftyeyes* But I'd friend you.

As for rating, I'd give you a six. This will probably be the only no I ever vote, too. But it's not that you aren't for us. Its more that we aren't the community for you.
Her reply was:
If you were referring to me on the rejection stamp crack, watch it. Like it or not, we have rules, and like it or not, I am a mod with the power to ban smartasses if need be.

Deal with it.
My reply was:
WATCH IT? I've checked the rules, Tami. There's not one in there that says I can be banned for being a smartass. So YOU'D be BREAKING THE RULES, TAMI, if you decided to ban me for that. And we all know how you HATE to be accused of breaking the rules. I have sat here and watched you bitch and moan about the number of pics and the wording on the lj cut long enough. I cringed to see you made a mod, cause power in the hands of an anal-retentive has been known to have bad results. (*see Germany) This community was not created to force us all into a cookie-cutter stamp of conformity. In the interest of protecting your poor anal psyche from the trauma of breaking the rules and banning me, I'll do YOU a favor and drop out on my own. Thank God this is the only community I belong to where you are a mod and not just a lowly member like the rest of us. Hopefully you can restrain yourself, as I have managed to do, when our paths cross elsewhere.
Her reply was:
You know something, mutual respect may not be written in the rules, but it is expected out of everyone. Check my intro post.

Having respect for someone, imho, is different from trying to force them to conform.

You know, I've been miserable in Dom/sub relationships that were vanilla. And I've been blissfully happy in at least one, as well. Its just the right combination. . . .

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seriously, I'm not thinking about it.

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

I know, I'm the one who is. Sorry. Moving right along.....!

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I know, there were people there, that you now are no longer in contact with...That hurts

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

Well, I made an effort to contact all the ones that I liked best. And adidaschica added me, and you added me. I regret that Vek didn't, but she had tami on her friends list, sooooo. *shrug* whatever. And I'm still on nekkidbbw, which is one of dead_gurlie's sites. So that's cool.

[slytherinsheirx.livejournal.com]

So you did quit it then....

Hmm...

I'm gonna re-read it in my typical "soak it up then digest then comment" fashion.. and post a reply =)

Yea.. people say to me get out more and stuff and yes maybe I should.. but... Most of what I need is on here.. you simply can't talk to the people out in the world... Apart from you and Nemmy course.... Hmm.. reminds m.. I should check my email...