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TELL ME!!

IS IT TRUE?

Is it POSSIBLE that a man 
can think a 
woman is pretty
or even 
BEAUTIFUL

and never tell her?

Never once say it out loud? 

IS IT????

Comments

[feri-hearted.livejournal.com]

If I had a dollar for every time a guy who liked me, thought I was pretty and such never said anything for whatever reason and I found out later, I could take you out to lunch and we could both have a few drinks

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

I'll bring my dollar for every time a guy said he wanted to fuck me rather than take me on a date, and we'll go buy a house in Bimini after our drinks.

[feri-hearted.livejournal.com]

I'll bring a dollar for every time a guy told me that he valued my friendship too much (after fucking me of course) to have a relationship with me and we can hire a few mambos to service us when we need it!

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

YES!!!

And then we can spend that dollar for every guy who thought about us while they sat at home alone jacking off and buy the government of the island!!

[feri-hearted.livejournal.com]

OMG!!! That seriously should have had a do not be drinking your coffee while reading this disclaimer on it!

Hell we could have enough money to be the dictators of the island! Build shrines in our goddess like images so they can just do it in public!

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

PRE - CISE - LY

And yes, I also had a spitting mental-gasm at the very thought.

[feri-hearted.livejournal.com]

a toast to us!!!!

[mrarthursimon.livejournal.com]

Oh yes its true. In fact in my expierence its more likly that a guy won't tell a girl that he likes her.

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

They should all be beaten, to within an inch of their lives. Even if a woman downplays her appearance intending to emphasize her intelligence or talents instead, she deserves to hear that someone thinks she's beautiful.

[mrarthursimon.livejournal.com]

I can't speak for other men, but I don't tell a lot of women I think their beautiful because I think so many women are beautiful and if one girl hears me telling another girl then she won't feel special when I tell her. Also the constant "Oh no i'm not stop" from women discourages me to no end and if its continued when I tell them I stop entirely not wanting to waste my breath on attempting to explain something to someone who would only dispute it.

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

You can't even attempt to change decades of instructed self-deprecation. No one expects you to try. You don't have to explain, or argue, and you don't have to make every woman believe you. When the time comes and you find one that is more special than the rest, then you can tell her HOW she is more special. In the meantime, they need to hear it Arthur. Even if they don't believe it.

[ke5egi.livejournal.com]

Hey sweetie, in my lifetime, I have found women to be very beautiful or pretty and didn't say anything cause some women I found kinda downplayed it as a way of thinking I was trying to get them in bed.
But I have also in my lifetime found more "beauty" in a woman's heart as well as in her appearance.

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

But did you tell her so? Because the crucial point of this question is DID YOU TELL HER??

Women need to know. NEED I TELL YOU. NEED

[(Anonymous)]

Oh yeah, I have TOLD a woman that she is pretty, etc and had them respond both ways, #1)they thought I was trying to get them in bed, or #2)they would say Thank You cause it made the lady feel good about herself.
And I have not said anything at times because I figured they KNEW they were pretty or beautiful.

I don't want to come across as seeming rude to women, but from a woman's point, how often should a guy say they are pretty, etc?
All the time? Some of the time? At the "right" time? Anytime? :-)

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

Depends on the situation and the woman. But mostly the situation.

If she's YOUR woman, she needs to hear it every day.

If you see her in a store, and she makes eye contact and smiles, she knows. If you're standing next to her in line, and things are quiet say it then. If she says thank you, say you're welcome. If she doesn't, just shrug it off.

If your woman is WITH YOU? Might not want to say anything, unless you know she's cool with it.

[ke5egi.livejournal.com]

I am a nice guy, really, but to just tell a woman she looks lovely, pretty, etc, I'm nervous as hell. *grins*
When the SO is with me, I will tell her, like if we are going out to eat, a movie, etc she looks great, pretty, whatever. But, unfort. I don't do this ALL the time.

[ke5egi.livejournal.com]

Sorry about that "Anonymous" post. For some reason, either computer and/or Hi-Speed ISP is fucking up BADLY today! Damnit!!
But it was I who responded.

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

I know. :D

[el-jefe59.livejournal.com]

Yeah, if he's shy.....

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

I know honey. Sadly, he's not shy. He just prefers to talk about himself.

Tell her this weekend, ya hear?

[el-jefe59.livejournal.com]

OK! :-)

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

You're such a good boy man.

[el-jefe59.livejournal.com]

I try.....

[gryfforin.livejournal.com]

see...

my only response?

Boyz R Dum

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

I know.

And I can't possibly hope to educate them all. Not today, anyway. But bygod I'm telling every other one I come in contact with to DO IT! TODAY!

I'm on a rampage, I tell ya.

[gryfforin.livejournal.com]

heeeee, I feel ya. I'm just running on next to empty.

6 hours and 36 minutes to go

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

Til the weekend? Or is something better coming?

[gryfforin.livejournal.com]

the weekend. That's as good as it gets right now.

Well, Wendy Wu Homecoming Warrior comes on tonight which is good as well

[almostwitty]

Absolutely. There are people who I think are devastatingly attractive, but I'd never tell them. They're coupled up or otherwise engaged or totally not interested in me, so why tell them that I think they are God's gift to people-who-fancy-women? They probably know that anyway.

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

Exercising judgement in whom you tell is of course to be expected. However, I suspect there are multitudes of women out there who never hear it, because every man assumes that she #1-knows, #2-doesn't fancy him, #3-will slap him if he is so base as to be observant of her physical attractiveness.

And they never hear it.

And it is a tragedy, I assure you.

[nsingman.livejournal.com]

Oh, it's absolutely true. There might even be good reasons for it, depending on the circumstances.

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

Eh. I suppose so. Every the pragmatist, arentcha dahlink?

[nsingman.livejournal.com]

On the contrary, young lady. I'm an idealist at heart. However, I can't be entirely impractical, because my wife and our three children are depending on me. A family can limit the practical (no pun intended) scope of our idealism.
:-)

[randomsnarking.livejournal.com]

It is true...though I have never been able to pull it off. Some guys are cool like that, though.

[slytherinsheirx.livejournal.com]

I have before.

Sometimes when I'm out and about and see people, I look them dead in the eye and see what they do - guys or gals.

Its good when they stare back and give you the look... heh..

Or they look and raise their eyebrows lol.

*shrugs*

Sometimes telling them is hard.. because you need to be in the right situation. I wouldn't do it sat on a crowded bus unless there was something that stirred up that line of conversation - even if I did want to tell a person that.

If it were me and a person alone somewhere or in a suitable place - I always imagine "the Lake" (from HP) for some reason... scenic and relaxing. I would feel more at ease to tell someone.

Sorry I've rambled.

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

No problem, rambles welcome sugar.

[slytherinsheirx.livejournal.com]

I do that too often *sheepish grin*

I like getting things off my chest though.

Like my latest voice post lol.

You MUST, she NEEDS!

[writerofdreams.livejournal.com]

It is true!!! Sometimes we do think we look pretty but not because we think or know we are pretty, but for you (men/boys/guys). to see that you notice us doing something special and that we do look pretty or beautiful, we still LONG to hear that. We want to know we DO attract you in our physical beauty!!! It is even more special, of course when you are very TRUE about it, and we can tell, yes, situations do matter.... but I am sure somewhere it would work, especially if you do think so. Do you like it when we compliment you??

Yes, I understand your need Anita! I feel you! If I didn't hear it, I would feel I wasn't attractive even though I thought I was... even things known in life, need to be said, could you imagine if we quit telling our loved ones we love them, they may "know" but to hear it still is touching and keeps something burning....

Guys, say the words :) and girls keep your part :D

hee hee!

Does it matter, I know it isn't the same...my mom and I think you are beautiful! : D

Love ya!
Steph

Re: You MUST, she NEEDS!

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

LOL

Sure it matters! And you are beautiful too!

You're exactly right - I knew you'd get it.

And I will beat him until he gets it too. lol

Re: You MUST, she NEEDS!

[writerofdreams.livejournal.com]

We are beautiful women :) YEAH!!! WE know it!!... ;) but we still need ya.. hey someone on this post.. TELL US! haha!

I think we should go around and get all the men to come to some building and teach them the way we want ;) we could.... hmm... take over the.... hmm.... male gender.. ::thinks:: haha! Wonderful!

lol

Re: You MUST, she NEEDS!

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

It would be a fun class, that's for sure!!

[skyearthandsea.livejournal.com]

I've never heard it from anyone I would actually believe :p

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

I felt that way for a long time, Holly. A REAL long time.

IS IT!!!

[navare8.livejournal.com]

In My case, no fuckin' way, never!!! I can't conceive of a MAN actually un-expressing himself in that manner!!!...Irish Bill... till we greet again...

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

Well I like to hear it, as you can well imagine. What woman doesn't?

[sexibitionyst.livejournal.com]

I've done that before, plenty of times. Sometimes, the time/place just isn't right. When I do say something to someone, I'll usually comment on something someone is wearing or just say something like, "You look nice" or I might say something about what they're wearing. That's if I don't know them.

If I'm friends with a woman or I'm dating someone, then what I say will be more personal, usually.

[another-voyeur.livejournal.com]

It's absolutely possible. Mostly because I've never felt like that's a compliment that lends itself to no ulterior motivations. It's hard for me to think a woman could hear me say "I think you're beautiful" and not think "He wants to sleep with me". And whether that's true or not, there are times when it may or may not be appropriate.

That said, there are women in my life I've said that to, and a few that I haven't said that to. It really does depend on who.

[dferguson.livejournal.com]

Think that's bad? I think we'd been married two or three years before I said "I love you"

[sapphirescarlet.livejournal.com]

Well. It's tempting to just say "Aren't you an asshole." But I don't know you and I'm not sure why you're here, and I don't normally verbally assault new visitors. However I must admit it doesn't say much for you.